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Shapers are typically women. It is well known in traditional Jewish circles that women have a special ability to understand men (especially their significant others) and exert influence over them. This special ability is called, bina. The negative side of this quality of bina, is that women sometimes come to believe they can change someone who is not open to change — and hence a Shaper is born.
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Sept 17, 2013 / 13 Tishrei 5774
Three common dating mistakes that can be fatal to a life-long relationship. …
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by Yaacov Deyo and Sue Deyo
Published: May 26, 2003

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An excerpt from the SpeedDating book.

The first step to SpeedDating is consciously committing to finding a long-term, meaningful relationship — and not settling for less. If you ask many people if they’re thinking of a long-term commitment with the person they’re dating, they’ll say, "No, no, we’re just dating." You meet them three years later and they’re saying the same thing.

For the SpeedDating process to work, dating must be seen as a vehicle for achieving a life-long committed relationship.

But couldn’t we assume that almost anyone reading this is looking for a meaningful, lasting relationship? Certainly, yes. Yet you may be dating in ways that have little chance of success. You may be falling victim to faux-relationships that seem headed in the right direction, but in fact are not. We like to say that these relationships craft half of a life-long relationship — the long part! Long-term faux-relationships are common time-wasters and heart-breakers because they typically last eight months to three years, but never held the potential for lifelong commitment.

Let’s examine a few such scenarios to help identify and avoid them in the future.
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— The Shaper

Shapers try to change the person they’re dating into someone he is not in order to make the relationship work. When Shapers encounter a deal-breaker situation in a relationship, they believe that if given just enough time and persuasion, the other person will change. Typically Shapers believe the relationship is perfect except for "just" one thing.

Jane is a classic Shaper. When we met Jane she was dating John. Jane admired John’s intelligence, sense of humor and strong work ethic. She believed they were perfect for each other. There was just one problem — John’s consuming passion for sport car racing. When he wasn’t working, John spent the majority of his time devoted to his hobby — either at the racetrack or at home working on one of his many cars. Jane disliked everything about this hobby. Cars didn’t interest her and she especially hated going to the track, where her emotions ranged from bored to terrified.

Instead of recognizing this deal-breaker situation, she tried to change reality.

She figured that John would outgrow this hobby someday. She certainly couldn’t imagine marrying someone who spent his life devoted to car racing. She bought John a tennis racket and lessons at the local health club. When he didn’t develop an interest in tennis, she bought them both mountain bikes and would regularly suggest that they go for bike rides. For over 18 months Jane tried to pull John away from his passion, with no success. Instead of recognizing and dealing with this deal-breaker situation, Jane continued to try to change reality.

There’s nothing wrong with exposing a potential partner to areas of your life to see if they, too, will be interested, but it’s unhealthy and unrealistic to try to mold a person into something he is not.

Had Jane been SpeedDating, she would have handled the situation differently. When she discovered that John, as wonderful as he was, was essentially married to a hobby she despised, she would first look within herself to see if in fact it was a deal-breaking situation. If it was, she would have explored for a limited time the possibility that he might be open to expanding his interests beyond car racing. Once she saw that he had no desire to do this, and if it was a true deal-breaker, she would have accepted that reality and broken off the relationship.

Holding onto the fantasy of the other person changing carries a great price in time and heartache.

Whenever we suggest this approach to a Shaper, the immediate question asked is: "But what if he changes after we break up?" Our answer: he probably won’t. If he does, you can re-evaluate and perhaps re-start the relationship. But holding onto the fantasy of him changing carries a great price: time, heartache, and — for women who want to have children with a committed partner — fertility.

The trap Shapers fall into is the mistaken belief that either they or time have the power to change someone. Many Shapers hold on to their fantasies because they lack confidence that they will meet someone as "great" as their current boyfriend. The reality is that while the Shaper is desperately holding on to a relationship destined for failure, Mr. Right may be passing, undetected, through her life.

Shapers are typically women. It is well known in traditional Jewish circles that women have a special ability to understand men (especially their significant others) and exert influence over them. This special ability is called, bina. The negative side of this quality of bina, is that women sometimes come to believe they can change someone who is not open to change — and hence a Shaper is born.
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— Defaulters

Another common mistake is to fall into what we term a "default-relationship." These occur because people mistakenly believe the myth in our society that you must completely enmesh yourself in a relationship to obtain the insights and information you need to make a commitment.

This myth is very dangerous because it clouds the point at which the "dating" stops and a "relationship" begins. By the time Defaulters figure out that the relationship is not right, they are so enmeshed with and invested in each other, they either feel an obligation to continue the relationship or they don’t have the strength of character to leave it.

When Paul and Ann began dating, there was an immediate attraction. Paul was a struggling actor and Ann a physician’s assistant. Within a couple of weeks they were seeing each other almost every day and within a few months were fully entrenched in each other’s lives. A couple of years later Ann began suggesting they get married. By this time Paul felt an obligation to marry Ann because she had been supporting his acting career for the past year. Intuitively, however, he sensed that they were not right for each other. He’d had this sense for the past year and a half — but living with her was so convenient, he kept procrastinating.

As he walked down the aisle at his wedding, he sensed they would end up divorced.

They did end up getting married, having a couple of children and then divorcing. Paul confided to us that as he walked down the aisle at his wedding, he sensed he and Ann would end up divorced.

While this story is extreme, the point is clear: Paul and Ann began a serious relationship before they had decided that they were right for each other. The extent of Ann’s giving to Paul was well out of proportion to the commitment Paul had made to her and Paul never made the conscious decision of wanting to be in a relationship with Ann — it just happened.

SpeedDaters date with one goal in mind — to gather the information and insights they need to make a decision about whether to commit. SpeedDaters use the SpeedDating tools to collect this information, instead of enmeshing their lives with another before a commitment to the relationship has been made.
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— The Cynic

The Cynic consciously or subconsciously no longer believes that she can find a lasting relationship. In fact, many Cynics believe that lasting relationships are mere fantasy. Unfortunately, the Cynic is usually the product of too many failed relationships.

Carol, at age 45, still dreamed of finding a committed relationship. However, she had known from the start of her past two relationships that they would never last. Her current boyfriend, Don, was fun to be around but had serious lapses in responsibility. He had filed for bankruptcy, still had debts and had no plans to change his free-spending behavior. Carol knew she would never lend him money, let alone believe the relationship had any real hope for commitment.

When Carol attended a SpeedDating seminar, she was shocked to realize that if she followed SpeedDating principles she would not have dated her previous boyfriend, or the man she was seeing now. "And if I hadn’t dated them, then I wouldn’t have had a relationship for over six years!" she said with horror.
Cynics don’t believe there is a better relationship out there and that they can find it.

Implicit in her statement is the classic Cynic assumption that these short-term relationships, or "companionship relationships," as we call them, are better than risking being alone, holding out for the right relationship. On a certain level, Cynics don’t believe that a third option exists — that there is a better relationship out there and that they can find it.

Choosing the short-term companionship of a relationship void of any hope of long-term commitment is not SpeedDating. If your goal is a relationship that lasts, cynical thoughts, comments and actions won’t bring you any closer to your goal. If you see patterns of the Cynic within yourself, remember that SpeedDating has worked for people of all ages and stages.

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What do the Shaper, Defaulter and Cynic have in common? They do not focus on their true goal of finding the right relationship, not just any relationship. SpeedDating does not mean getting into just any relationship faster; it’s finding the right relationship faster and ending the dating phase of your life forever.

From SPEEDDATING. Copyright 2002 by Yaacov Deyo and Sue Deyo. All rights reserved. HarperCollins Publishers. Used by permission.
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…..item 2a)…. youtube video … Patsy Cline Greatest Hits Side 1 Pt1 HQ … 13:09 minutes …

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Mega Thirst

Published on Nov 6, 2012

I don’t own any copyrights to this, I’m just sharing it as my collection of vinyl’s On
here. please enjoy, some are in good condition, so are not haha. these are the original way
they sound.

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— E-D carter 3 months ago

nice dime , great sound , sounds right ,speed to me , some pops , but that is the feel of records …i got the memorial pressing just after the crash ….keep it in a vault .
thanks for posting , a great one , sorely missed .
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— Mark Young 4 months ago

This is a must have album especially the the new 200 gram vinyl QRP pressed record by Acoustic sounds absolutely dead quite with a unbelievable sound stage it’s just beautiful! It blows any CD away.
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— mpm1111 6 months ago

Winchester, Virginia was never the same after that plane crashed. I remember that day of March 5, 1963 like it just happened. I was 19 and in the Navy on an aircraft carrier in the Med when we heard it on the news. One of the greatest voices EVER!!!
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…..item 2b)…. youtube video … Patsy Cline Greatest Hits Rest of side one Most of side 2 HQ …

… 14:26 minutes …

www.youtube.com/watch?v=kEPYIfe0RVg

Mega Thirst

Published on Nov 6, 2012

I don’t own any copyrights to this, I’m just sharing it as my collection of vinyl’s On
here. please enjoy, some are in good condition, so are not haha. these are the original way
they sound

Category
Music

License
Standard YouTube License
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— ColColt45 1 month ago

Great album and I’m glad I have one as well. The two record set, "The Patsy Cline Story" has her great hits and I have several CD’s recently bought that include all those songs and others. A one of a kind voice, make no mistake.
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— Vivian Calhoun 2 months ago

Amazing Patsy!! What a voice! Because of her music she will always live. Thank you!!
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…..item 2c)…. youtube video … Patsy Cline Greatest hits Rest of side 2 HQ … 5:19 minutes …

www.youtube.com/watch?v=W7518adaCOc

Mega Thirst

Published on Nov 6, 2012

I don’t own any copyrights to this, I’m just sharing it as my collection of vinyl’s On
here. please enjoy, some are in good condition, so are not haha. these are the original way
they sound.

Category
Music

License
Standard YouTube License
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— bender138 6 months ago

One of the greatest voices of all time.
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